"I just feel like everyone wants a piece of me."
"I know I need time for myself, but that seems so selfish."
"I feel invisible."
These were the conversations I had yesterday. Yesterday, which started with my own less-than-kind self-talk (Why aren't you working out today? You shouldn't have eaten that brownie with breakfast) and ended with news of Robin Williams' death.
You don't have to look too far to see people who are hurting, who are stressed and worn out. Family taking care of elderly parents or sick siblings. Friends trying to meet the expectations of bosses and boyfriends, clients and customers. People who are stretched too thin.
We hear a lot about our chronic money problems in the U.S., about how we borrow too much and get too far in debt. I think it's more than our bank accounts that are overdrawn.
The simple truth is that you cannot give what you don't have—not for long, and not without going bankrupt. If it isn't selfish to put away money before we need to spend it, how can it be selfish to invest in our own personal resources? How can it be selfish to get enough sleep, to pause in the daily grind to prepare and eat good food, to set aside time for a walk or a trip to the gym?
Here's what I've learned: the only way to quiet my own negative thinking is to make a deposit. It doesn't always have to be big...sometimes all I need is a quick walk around my neighborhood. But I need to add something every day or very quickly I feel overwhelmed.
Is there something that makes you feel calm and relaxed? Someone who makes you laugh and brings you joy? An activity that lowers your stress and your blood pressure? This week, make time for that thing, that activity, that person. Make time to enjoy yourself, to invest in yourself and your well-being. It's the only way to be the best version of yourself.
And if you need extra help, please find it. Talk to a friend or to your doctor. To get more information about mental health services, you can call the SAMHSA Treatment Referral Helpline at 1-877-726-4727.
Please take care.
Saturday, July 26, 2014
Well, it finally happened.
After nine years of making bachelorette party favors, someone asked me to make a favor design featuring male anatomy.
I'm a little surprised it didn't happen before now. If you've thrown a bachelorette party (or attended one), you know that much of the popular decor, accessories, and favors include phallic designs. From lollipops to cakes, chocolates, drinking straws, and even pasta, naughty is the norm for bachelorette parties.
In fact, it's so common that you're probably wondering why I don't do more of them. Sure, I have done favors like these, with risqué wording:
|Kiss Bachelorette Favors | Label Design #308|
I've created other favors with raunchy sayings. But why do I advertise and create mostly "clean" bachelorette favors?
A few years ago I went to a bridal shower that felt more like a bachelorette party. Mixed in with the traditional games were a few that were...well, lewd. While I often have a vulgar sense of humor, I could tell that some of the grandmothers present were very uncomfortable, and that made me feel awkward, too. While most bachelorette parties don't include grandmothers, I figured there had to be other groups who might not appreciate having genitalia designs on everything. I discovered that many of you agree.
"I have to say it was nice finding a place to get favors that did not include the male genitalia anywhere for my friend's bachelorette party," customer V. Raval shared. "The Bride is really happy I found your site as well. When you are in your 30's you want something a little more classy."
Leslie H., a customer from Tennessee, also appreciated having the option: "Thanks for offering something that's not crass and embarrassing for a bachelorette party!!" Leslie said.
When your guests (or the bride) are a little older, or come from different cultures or religious traditions, it might not be appropriate to share naughty novelties. Since most bachelorette shops are offering adult-themed items, it can be harder to find bachelorette favors and gifts personalized for the tame themes, which is why I love offering those options.
Sheila L. from New York shared what she liked best about the "clean" favors she ordered: "I just received my shipment of bachelorette favor lip balms and I have to say they are more beautiful than I ever could have imagined...I really and truly appreciate the time you took to personalize your patterns to the bride's colors."
Sometimes it's about personalizing to the bride's theme colors, and sometimes it's about the naughty designs. To us, it's always about options, so meet our newest design (I've been calling them Phun Phallus Phavors):
|"To Have and To Hold" | Phun Phallus Bachelorette Favors|
Label design #366, matching tag #1382 (tag pictured is #1035 on hot pink)
Well, what did you expect? This is a family site! (If you're interested, I promise we'll send you the uncensored version for your approval.)
What do you think? Do you prefer the tame, classy bachelorette favor, or the naughty novelty? Or a combination of naughty and nice? What's your favorite bachelorette party theme?
Friday, July 25, 2014
Would you like a chance to win 30 lotion favors, all wrapped up like the examples below? Please visit Emmaline Bride for details and enter before July 31.
Tuesday, July 08, 2014
Last Saturday, we visited Glendarragh Lavender Farm in Appleton, Maine. They were almost ready to harvest the lavender and opened their farm to visitors. What a beautiful place!
I've always wanted to see fields of lavender but didn't know about Glendarragh until recently. They grow a dozen varieties of English and French (lavandin) lavender at their farm, in a range of colors from deep purple to pale pink, white, and of course, lavender. You can read more about them and see some harvest photos on their Facebook page.
Of course I had to come home and make some Lavender Lemonade lip balms. It's a specialty flavor, a purple-hued lemon-flavored balm with a hint of lavender.
|Lavender Lemonade lip balm|
Have you ever visited a lavender farm?
Saturday, July 05, 2014
Summers are for cold treats - and for lip balm versions of cold treats! This July, our Flavor of the Month is Root Beer Float. We add a generous scoop of vanilla to a mug (tube?) of fizzy root beer, for a sweet balm your lips will love.
We'll also be including a Root Beer Float lip balm in orders placed by our favorite customers (Flavorites). Remember, we don't pick favorites, so you get to decide at checkout whether you'd like to join! Look for the check box at checkout this month.
Do you like root beer floats? What's your favorite summer treat?
Saturday, June 28, 2014
Anchors aweigh, it's a nautical theme day!
Not to take the wind out of your sails, but you don't need to go overboard planning a maritime bridal shower or bachelorette. Even a simple celebration can share oceans of love with the bride-to-be.
|Anchors Aweigh Bridal Shower Favors | Tag Design # 1376 (matching label #360)|
Want smooth sailing for the new couple? Share wisdom and marriage tips at the bridal shower, so the bride can learn the ropes from friends and family. Your advice can help them keep their relationship on an even keel.
|Down the Hatch Bachelorette Favors | Label Design #361 (matching tag #1377)|
You don't have to drink like a fish at your bachelorette party. Instead, choose your favorite cocktails in lip balm form. Mimosa and Pink Champagne are two of our most popular bachelorette party flavors. Down the hatch!
|Oceans of Love Bridal Shower Favors | Label design #362 (matching tag #1378)|
As she prepares to take the plunge, all that planning may leave the bride feeling like she can't keep her head above water. These little celebrations will get her back in the swim of things and feeling happy as a clam!
|Dropping Anchor Bridal Shower Favors | Label Design #363 (matching tag #1379)|
With your help, she'll have a whale of a time tying the knot. Talk with us about nautical theme favors for bridal showers and bachelorette parties!
Thursday, June 12, 2014
There are so many things to like about summer, I couldn't pick just one...so I picked ten of my favorites to share with you today. Here are our favorite summer recipes from the past few years, all together and linked to their original posts.
Have a yummy summer!